No matter where you are, and no matter how pretty you think a strange woman is, keep it to yourself. She doesn’t care what people she doesn’t know think about her, and it’s not flattering for strangers to come up to her and tell her that they have judged her without even knowing her and that she has passed their test. It’s annoying at best. She didn’t arrange her appearance to make you happy, and the idea that strangers are watching her waiting for the right moment to blurt out that she would make an acceptable sexual object won’t make her day better. It sends the message to her, in fact, that you are more interested in her reproductive capacity than you are in anything else she has to offer. Whatever it is she chose to do today that put her in your path you have dismissed completely by focusing on her looks. What purpose do you think it serves to tell strange women that you approve of their looks, anyway? What do you stand to gain from it?
If you see a pretty woman at a skeptical event who you do not know, do not tell her she is pretty. Just because you and the woman have skepticism in common does not erase the fact that she is a stranger. If you tell her that you approve of her looks first thing, she will understand that she is valued more as eye candy than for what she has to contribute to skepticism. She may choose in the future to spend her free time with people who acknowledge right away that her knowledge and experience is valuable, and never come back to your event.
Every chromosome and primate instinct may be screaming at you that a strange woman is the exact kind of woman you want for a partner, and that’s fine. Feel what you feel, but keep it in your head. She really doesn’t care. You may even upset her. Do you get so much benefit from telling strange women that you approve of their looks that it’s worth the risk of alienating them?
PS: If you have been talking with a woman for a while, then she’s not a stranger, is she?
But… complimenting a woman on a particular piece of jewelry and then walking away is like the nicest thing ever. A compliment where you walk away after she says, “”thanks,” says that you actually wanted to give her that compliment rather than use it as a pick up line. Plus it then gives her an opening to say hey to you later on if she wants to.
If you know enough about jewelry (handbag, shoes, perfume, manicures, etc.) to actually compliment a particular piece in a meaningful way, or if it was so eye-catching you really want to ask about it, by all means speak up, especially if it was her jewelry that brought her to your in the first place. You might not even have to walk away after if she continues the conversation. If you’re just looking for something to say to her because you can, she’ll probably figure out that it’s kind of phony and you were just saying it to say something, and assume you were trying to use it as a pick-up line, even if you walk away right after.
Jewelry is a manifestation of a woman’s decision-making process and personality, though, so it can be a good starting point for a conversation.
And you think WE always care what strange WOMEN think? You think THEY are the centre of our worlds? How arrogant, how presumptuous, how WRONG; BTW? Why do WOMEN not care if THEY pass strange MEN’S tests & yet then? Insist such men Often pass THEIR weird & Stupid little tests BEFORE talking to us then? What’s good for them is NOT for men is it? Wrong yet again…………..
BTW? It’s just as polite to call a lady pretty or say she looks nice today as it is to hold a door or lend your coat to her but that’s NOT the done thing in this day & age is it & you women MOAN when we do it & in the SAME breath? Complain men AREN’T polite enough anymore – I’ll say it again You don’t know WHAT you want half the time DO you? You want politeness with EVERY word watched, you want US to leave OUR little tests for you but us to jump EVERY hoop YOU put out – You want it ALL with NO compromise & the sooner you learn you WON’T get that & that compromise is a FACT of life rather than something women do when they’re not busy REFUSING to do so as it instead suits them to complain about being unequal to men? The better we’ll get on & the closer YOU’LL get to a world that satisfies you maybe…………..
If all you can ever think to talk about with strange women is their looks, then you are the one who is deficient. Not them. And politeness has nothing to do with telling strange women that they’ve met your standard of attractiveness.